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After the Honeymoon: Idealization and Disillusionment

A while back, I read that the honeymoon phase of most relationships is about 16 months. In that first 16 months, the “other” is glorified, idealized, and thought to perfectly complement us. The “other” does not have to be a person. We can also glorify and idealize a new cause or  new passion, such as yoga, shamanism, qigong, or meditation. During this honeymoon phase, we feel we have foun...

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The Longest Journey Starts with One Step: Getting Started with Making Changes

It’s said that the longest journey starts with one step, but sometimes, that step seems so big that we talk ourselves out of taking it. On my to-do list, I check off the easy items and take a long time to get to the hard ones. I tell myself, “I don’t have enough time or enough energy today, so I’ll wait.” But I’ve learned that hard things can be broken down into smaller tasks that a...

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Bearing the Tension of Being Betwixt and Between

Often, when we are anxiously betwixt and between an old and a new way of being, we feel an inner urge to act so as to dissipate the anxiety of waiting. Rather than taking action prematurely, we are usually better served by bearing the tension of waiting until we gain clarity as to what to do. Clarity can come through shamanic journey work, dreams, or flashes of insight that appear when we are quie...

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Your Ideals and Choices: Questioning Your Beliefs

Your ideas about right and wrong have immense influence over the decisions you make. But how deeply have you examined the foundational values by which you’re living your life? How can you discover what those values truly are? Questioning your beliefs could involve an exploration of how you would feel in hypothetical situations that pose painful ethical challenges. Although thinking about such si...

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Expanding the Boundaries of Your Life

Each of us has a story, but it’s not always a satisfying one. Changing your story requires changing the way you view the world so that you can visualize and energize new possibilities. Until you perceive a wider range of potential opportunities open to you, you might feel you’re boxed into your current situation with no recourse. We all have constraints: Not all medical conditions are reversib...

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