Posts Tagged ‘decision making’
Pause and Hit the Refresh Button
Too many people feel stuck in a rut they don’t know how to escape. They might daydream about making changes, but somehow, transformation never happens. Even if they face no obvious obstacles, they don’t progress toward their goals. Because it’s painful to think about how stagnant their life seems, they usually try not to think…
Read MoreWhen Your Spending Habits Aren’t Working for You
The beginning of a new year holds the promise of reinvention, retooling, and rejuvenation, and we eagerly anticipate that this year will be different and better. We vow to change old habits that are no longer working for us. Soon, however, we find ourselves stuck again in the old patterns. If your spending habits are…
Read MoreYearning for Something Else
How much of your story has involved yearning for something else, versus working with what you have? When I was a teenager, I spent time in my grandparents’ house in Paris, Kentucky. It was a small house with one bathroom, which had a radio that was usually tuned to bluegrass music. One day, I heard…
Read MoreTime to Write and Bring to Life a New Story
You can have many incentives to change your life: for example, recognizing that you need to change your financial situation, realizing that the person you are is not who you want to be, feeling the need to answer a spiritual call, or accepting that a relationship or situation can’t continue as it has. As a…
Read MoreAfter the Honeymoon: Idealization and Disillusionment
A while back, I read that the honeymoon phase of most relationships is about 16 months. In that first 16 months, the “other†is glorified, idealized, and thought to perfectly complement us. The “other†does not have to be a person. We can also glorify and idealize a new cause or new passion, such as…
Read MoreThe Longest Journey Starts with One Step: Getting Started with Making Changes
It’s said that the longest journey starts with one step, but sometimes, that step seems so big that we talk ourselves out of taking it. I check off the easy items my to-do list and take a long time to get to the hard ones. I tell myself, “I don’t have enough time or enough…
Read MoreBearing the Tension of Being Betwixt and Between
Often, when we are anxiously betwixt and between an old and a new way of being, we feel an inner urge to act quickly so as to dissipate the anxiety of waiting. Rather than taking action prematurely, we’re usually better off bearing the tension of waiting until we gain clarity about what to do. Clarity…
Read MoreYour Ideals and Choices: Questioning Your Beliefs
Your ideas about right and wrong have immense influence over the decisions you make. But how deeply have you examined the foundational values by which you’re living your life? How can you discover what those values truly are? Questioning your beliefs could involve an exploration of how you would feel in hypothetical situations that pose…
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