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Is Gossip Destructive or Productive?

We live in a world where gossip can quickly go viral. In the past, true and untrue stories told about others might spread over days or even weeks. Now they can spread in minutes. I don’t know many of the celebrities who are in the news, but I find gossip about them in the media competing for my attention. I’m struck with how much of my time can be potentially taken up by news about people I do...

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After the Honeymoon: Idealization and Disillusionment

A while back, I read that the honeymoon phase of most relationships is about 16 months. In that first 16 months, the “other” is glorified, idealized, and thought to perfectly complement us. The “other” does not have to be a person. We can also glorify and idealize a new cause or  new passion, such as yoga, shamanism, qigong, or meditation. During this honeymoon phase, we feel we have foun...

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The Longest Journey Starts with One Step: Getting Started with Making Changes

It’s said that the longest journey starts with one step, but sometimes, that step seems so big that we talk ourselves out of taking it. On my to-do list, I check off the easy items and take a long time to get to the hard ones. I tell myself, “I don’t have enough time or enough energy today, so I’ll wait.” But I’ve learned that hard things can be broken down into smaller tasks that are...

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Bearing the Tension of Being Betwixt and Between

Often, when we are anxiously betwixt and between an old and a new way of being, we feel an inner urge to act quickly so as to dissipate the anxiety of waiting. Rather than taking action prematurely, we're usually better off bearing the tension of waiting until we gain clarity about what to do. Clarity can come through shamanic journey work, dreams, or flashes of insight that appear when we are qui...

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Your Ideals and Choices: Questioning Your Beliefs

Your ideas about right and wrong have immense influence over the decisions you make. But how deeply have you examined the foundational values by which you’re living your life? How can you discover what those values truly are? Questioning your beliefs could involve an exploration of how you would feel in hypothetical situations that pose painful ethical challenges. Although thinking about such si...

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