Posts by Carl Greer
Finding a Silver Lining After a Loss
Change is inevitable, but when it involves loss, we can get stuck in grief and anger rather than accepting what’s happened and moving forward. Yet when I was a practicing licensed clinical psychologist, I often saw clients who had received a deeply distressing diagnosis or another devastating loss find silver linings that were initially hidden from them. I watched people with terminal illnesses grow in self-awareness, access and express their long-repressed feelings, and recognize at last what they most valued. They healed old wounds . . .
Read MoreChange the World, And Yourself, Through Rituals and Ceremonies
Why are ritual and ceremony powerful tools for change?
Ritual and ceremony alter the energy field we all share. If you’ve ever wondered how a dog can find its way home even though it is lost and many miles away in an unfamiliar place, or pondered how birds in a flock can suddenly shift direction simultaneously, it’s because animals are tuned into the energy field we all share and can communicate with others and their environment through this field. As humans, we have lost much of our instincts….
Read MorePause and Hit the Refresh Button
Too many people feel stuck in a rut they don’t know how to escape. They might daydream about making changes, but somehow, transformation never happens. Even if they face no obvious obstacles, they don’t progress toward their goals. Because it’s painful to think about how stagnant their life seems, they usually try not to think…
Read More8 Strategies for Making Little Choices That Can Lead to Big Changes
Are you hoping to change your life in some way? The choices you make are the stepping stones on the way to transformation. However, even when the way forward is clear, you might find yourself failing to meet your goals. If you can make the most of those moments when you’re faced with little choices…
Read MoreNew Ideas on How To Be of Service
Many people find a sense of purpose and connection when they give of themselves in service. Some small children raise money for charities they believe in. There are very busy adults who thought they would wait until some undetermined future date to give back, only to be so moved by a cause that they made time to support it. If you want to help others and the earth more than you have been, or help in different ways than you have in the past, you might want to consider some new ideas on how to be of service.
Read MoreGet in Touch with Your Creativity
Too many people operate on autopilot, bored with their lives and feeling restless. Have you become trapped in a story that’s no longer serving you, in patterns that make you yearn to feel more enlivened? Get in touch with your creativity and you might be able to write a new story for yourself that’s more…
Read MoreMake Habits Stick
How often have you vowed to make a change in some area of your life only to find that after a few attempts to establish a new habit, you’ve gone back to the old ways? Changes at the margin can become habits, but there are secrets that chan help you make habits stick. Dream big…
Read MoreUse Your Words, Choose Your Words
If you can learn to create a momentary pause before you respond verbally to a situation, you might find that your word choices support healthy and helpful communication more than they would otherwise.
Read MoreIf You Dislike Giving or Receiving Gifts
If you dislike giving or receiving gifts, there could be any number of reasons you feel that way. Whatever they are, you can learn to feel more comfortable about this important element of many relationships, including partnerships and marriages, friendships, and grandparent/grandchild relationships. When You Dislike Gift-Giving One reason you might dislike giving gifts is…
Read MoreThe Power of Sacred Listening
Sometimes, when we’re listening to someone who is confiding in us, they begin shutting down. They seem to know we are not truly tuned in, not exercising the power of sacred listening. Sacred listening has qualities that ordinary listening lacks and has three core elements: respecting people’s autonomy, respecting their emotions, and properly timing your…
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