Playing with Metaphors to Help You with Transformation

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Is your story not working for you? Does it seem to be influencing what you’re experiencing and causing you unhappiness? You can change your story–and your life. You might want to work with metaphors so transformation is easier for you. Play around with them to better understand what you have experienced and the different ways…

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Reflecting on The Necktie and The Jaguar

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What is the value of self-reflection? I have thought a lot about that lately as I’ve completed and just published my newest book The Necktie and The Jaguar: A Memoir to Help You Change Your Story and Find Fulfillment. It’s what I call an interactive memoir: In addition to writing my own story, I have…

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The Art of Listening

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Hitchhiking across the U.S. as a young man, spending countless hours in strangers’ cars, I began to develop my listening skills. I heard stories of broken hearts and lessons learned. A Catholic priest shared his experiences of the religious life with me, and in my next ride, a Protestant minister shared his different perspective. The…

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When You Have Unfinished Business

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If you were to take stock of your life, would you be uncomfortable with the amount of unfinished business you have? Maybe you meant to clear the air with someone or begin working toward a certain goal, but something always stopped you. Reflecting on unfinished business can help you to take actions that will tie…

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Tidying Up Your Bucket List

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Many people have a bucket list, a list of things they want to make sure they experience in this life. Is it possible that it’s time to tidy up your bucket list because it no longer reflects your values and deepest desires? When you read your bucket list, you might feel inadequate or embarrassed because…

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What Roles Do You Play in the Story of Your Life?

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We all have a story about who we are and why we experience what we do. What is your story? What roles do you play in the story of your life? Are you the wounded healer? Are you always the bridesmaid, never the bride? Maybe your story is called “I can’t trust myself, so I’m…

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Rewrite the Story That Has Held You Back

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What’s your story? Is it working for you? Some people would say their story is “I guess I wasn’t born under a lucky star” or perhaps “I’m a drama queen!” and might not realize that they believe this story so thoroughly that it’s holding them back from achieving their goals. Others will say, “I’m doing…

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The Suddenlies That Change Your Life

A dog is looking at the butterfly in its mouth.

I have often led workshops for people who want to learn techniques for gaining insights and momentum that will help them transform their lives in some way. Some hope to adopt new health habits and experience better health as a result. Others seek new ways of looking at themselves and their potential to change the…

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Engage Nature’s Healing Energies

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When we get in touch with nature, we may find that we feel a deep sense of calm and well-being. Research has confirmed what many people have observed: nature has healing energies. Do you enjoy being in the woods? Studies show we can experience health and psychological benefits if we spend time in such places…

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The Last Moment

A dandelion in the foreground with sun setting behind it.

The last moment before the sun sets. The last moment before a seed leaves the dandelion, taken away on the wind. The last moment before you open your eyes in the morning. Every day is filled with last moments, some of which we’re aware of, some of which pass without our notice. Similar moments may…

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